Hello again, Satti, and thanks for your comment and question, which, no, I don’t mind at all. In fact, thank you for asking it.

Although I am a woman I can only speak for myself rather than for all the humans who identify as women, so my answer probably won’t help you much.

For my part, I let my imagination run wild but I must say that although this article has caused quite a controversy — and as much as I enjoy masturbation — this is hardly something I’ve engaged in much over the last five years because depression did away with my libido altogether.

Because my brain is quite weird and gets turned on by the kind of things other humans might not find remotely sexy or attractive, a man doesn’t always have to feature in the imaginings that lead to orgasm. Sometimes my motivation is fairly nebulous.

In the case of the time that prompted the article that blew up in my face (see the comments for details), this was the first time in a very long time and I focused on the science of it (as in chemical reactions within the body), the quirky and cheeky nature of the suggestion, and especially the promise of sleep. Sleep became the sexiest thing on the planet for those few minutes. I was courting oblivion and I got it. Because insomnia destroys you, and I haven’t been able to get mine under control yet. The consequences on a daily basis are getting worse and worse.

I’m not on any medication and do not consume alcohol nor drugs therefore my options to battle insomnia are fairly limited. While I used to practice a lot of yoga, it’s unadvisable to do so when as chronically underslept as I am as it is when serious injuries happen, as I found out. Same goes for running or anything high impact. Long walks may be the way to go, especially as soon as I get to Europe. In that sense, masturbation is a tool for me. Again, not super sexy and not the standard take on things but eh, I’m a weirdo.

Lastly, your views on homosexuality took me aback, I must say. To me, love is love and transcends gender, an outdated concept we need to do away with if we’re ever to evolve as a species. And yes, evolution means a lot more than reproduction. As a result, I have a broad approach of human sexuality although I identify as a heterosexual woman but only because I yet have to fall in love with a woman. Could it happen? I honestly don’t know.

All I know is that when love shows up, you go with the flow regardless of the obstacles that might stand in your way because it is so very rare. Also, we’re not all wired the same, and having a sexual orientation that is different from the majority’s doesn’t make it any less valid.

Needless to say, this does NOT encompass unconscionable and criminal deviances such as pedophilia, spousal abuse, or rape lest anyone should seek clarification on what I really mean.

Salam, my friend. :-)

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