Thanks for your response, Katy Preen. We have our ups and downs, and on the whole my husband is quite understanding but he’s buckling under the magnitude of this burden, and who could blame him?
I wrote this because I felt this could be a common situation people never discuss, and I needed some perspective, which you and Satti above have already provided. This kind of exchange is priceless to me.
Like you and your partner, if my husband weren’t here, I’d probably have a much harder time and may not even be around anymore to write about it. Barbed comments grate, but I’ve learned to take them for what they are: a fleeting expression of frustration, no matter how often they occur.